How to Clean Your Adult Toys Properly

When you finish using your adult toys, you need to spend a few minutes cleaning your them to prevent germs clustering and multiplying. The last thing you want is a trip to the hospital because you have an infection from using a dirty vibrator. That one is kind of hard to explain to your relatives who want to know why you are in the hospital!

It is quite simple to take care of your ladies sex toys, especially your vibrator. If you purchase a waterproof vibrator, it is even easier. You can simply wash your vibrator in warm water. Give it a thorough cleansing in warm, soapy water. Always finish off the cleaning with a thorough wipe over using antibacterial wipes. However, if you do not have a waterproof vibrator, you still need to get your vibrator clean.

Take a tissue and wipe off the obvious places where lubricant, jelly, or your vaginal discharge can collect on your toy. You may need several tissues to clean it. Next, use a damp cloth to wipe over the toy. Make sure the cloth is not too damp or is not dripping wet, especially if your vibrator is not waterproof. You may want to dampen just a corner of a cloth and use the section next to that corner to wipe over your adult sex toy.

If you have a sex toy that has movable parts, or attachments you can disconnect, make sure you wipe the it in all the areas by moving the parts or disconnecting the attachments and wiping them separately. You do not want to miss cleaning any part of your ladies sex toy.

Finally, use antibacterial wipes to wipe over every part of your vibrator. The antibacterial wipes will remove any germs or bacteria on your vibrator that could grow if left in a warm place, such as a sock or underwear drawer.

Before you put your toy away for use next time, you need to make sure it is completely dry. Putting away a wet or even slightly moist sex toy will give any bacteria a perfect breeding environment, and this is just what you need to prevent.

When you store your sex toy, it is best to put it in a box or a plastic bag. This will prevent cross contamination and dust settling on the toy in your drawer. If you have an airtight container, that will be the best storage place for your adult sex toy.

Remember that you use your sex toys or ladies vibrators in the most intimate places in your body and you do not want to cause yourself an infection by using a dirty or dusty sex toy. Regular cleaning and good storage of your sex toy will prevent any disasters. You will have your vibrator ready to use whenever you need it.

Pornography As a Turn-On for Fun-Driven Adult Sex

Adventurous couples can buy a pornographic video and watch it together. That is generally a surefire way to end up in bed. In fact, it is usually when couples are in bed that they watch such films. And if the film is a good one they will enjoy being turned on as they watch it. Many couples find that the provocative content stimulates them to duplicate what is being viewed. They are impulsively driven to touch each other, kid around, mimic the sex acts, and swing from the imagined chandelier as they tickle each other’s fancy.

In many countries in the world, including most industrialized ones, pornography is not banned or hidden from view. For example, at King’s Cross district in Sydney, Australia a section of the city is designated to show and sell pornography Sex oriented videos, DVDs, books, sex toys, lubricants, assumed aphrodisiacs, are sold in kiosks and stores. Strip clubs, restaurants, massage parlors and other clubs are available to meet members of the opposite sex.

In Europe, in many countries, and cities pornography is not hidden and thus available for adults. In all the countries there are restrictions to the sale of pornography to children and prosecution of offenders is open and continuous.

In the US pornography is not banned from sale to adults although there is no tolerance on anyone abusing the Child Pornography laws.

But for the purpose of improving the sex life of adults pornography has a place for some. Do you have to be lonely or hard-up to use porn? The answer is No. Porn can be a substitute for sex for many lonely and sex starved adults, mainly men, and for adults without a partner who like visual stimulation for self-arousal.

Finally, let’s examine whether pornography can fit into the armamentarium of the average adult who wishes for increased stimulation for lovemaking. What can porno offer?
As with any movie there is added stimulation by watching real pictures compared to imaging such scenes. Some porno videos actually tell a reasonable story where there is more than just sexual exploitation. So some selection is necessary. Google is a good resource to discover what are considered the best sex videos made in the past few decades.

Beside adding visual stimulation couples can mimic what they see, learn about new positions, empathize with the excitement of the sex partners, imagine participating in the viewed sex, experience sex beyond their own interests, such as gay, bi, S and M, bondage, oral and anal sex, and the use of fetishes. Some show dancing, foreplay that could be stimulating and perhaps above all can act as a stimulus to open the viewers to become freer and lustier about sex.

If you attempt to try out the benefits of sex videos and it is new to you imagine becoming an adventurer and explorer so you don’t take a negative bias into your viewing. An open mind will allow you to gain what might be there for you. At the very worst it won’t have any effect on you and may even turn you off. If so, just chalk it up as another interesting experience.

To determine if pornography may be a stimulus for your personal sex life approach its use openly. It might be a new vehicle for greater enjoyment of sex for occasional use or even frequent use. Remember adults have no restrictions on what they mutually do and prefer behind closed doors. So enjoy the movies and enjoy the sex and know you have taken another step to gaining a new stimulus for sex and love.

by Marvin H. Berenson, M.D. July 12, 2011

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A Guide To Online Adult Sex Stores

There are a lot of people that have never been to an adult sex store but they would like to visit one and invest in a sexual toy. There are some people that have been to this style of shop before but they are looking to revisit and invest in a new item to give them pleasure. Before you head off to one of these stores it is important to bear in mind that there is both advantages and disadvantages of purchasing that desired item online.

The online shops are in a position to offer a range of different special offers. The positive aspects of online shops is that they are able to offer better deals and there is also a range of money saving coupons that will be available. It is very uncommon to get good deals in the local high street stores and in most cases the items will cost you a considerable amount more than it would online. Another positive aspect of shopping online is that you can do it in privacy as no one else knows you are shopping in the store and no-one will know what you are purchasing.

It is very important to take time to conduct some research into the items that are available as this will mean that you do not waste your money on an item that is not actually that good. If you are going to purchase a vibrator it is very important that you know what is available so that you can purchase one that will hit the correct spot for you.

It is great to do the shopping from the comfort of your own home and this gives you complete privacy as no-one will know what you are buying and who you are. Shopping for your sex toy online also allows you to open up to your partner and express your feelings. If you make a joint decision and get a sex toy that you both like this will enable you to create a special atmosphere within the body.

Almost all of the online sex stores offer the facility to return items where as local stores in most cases will not allow this. This returns policy is another good reason for shopping online for your sex toy. It can be annoying having to take the time to return the item but this is much better than having faulty item that is really no use.

There is really one main disadvantage when it comes to purchasing your sex toys online and this is that it is hard to handle the item and see exactly how it works. One of the most important things about vibrators is the intensity that it is able to offer. Nowadays there is some video clips on the online shops and these show the working item and give you an idea of what it is like.

It is good idea to purchase a sex toy from the comfort of your home as it will enable you to check the prices and make comparisons. The online sites will also make it possible for your to read reviews which have been written by other customers.

Would Your Partner Prefer Sexy Lingerie or a Sex Toy for Valentines?

We are all becoming more open in our view to sex and the activities we participate in the bedroom, so if you purchased your partner a sex toy for valentines would this be accepted, or thrown in a draw never to be taken out of the package? Or should you just treat her to some sexy underwear or a sexy outfit?

Sexy Lingerie

For the men there is no question that we all love to see our woman in her favourite sexy underwear, whether this is sexy bra and knickers, a Basque or maybe a sexy costume. I know that if my partner puts on her sexy outfit she feels good because of the effect on me and what it will lead to.

We all have our preference for sexy lingerie or sexy underwear and we should forget that just a sexy night or chemise will also have the desired effect on both partners.

If you are at the beginning of your relationship you may not need sexy underwear or lingerie to spice up your sex life, and you don’t have to buy a sexy outfit for your partner just because it’s valentines.

For the blokes out there that do not like to go to shops and buy this intimate piece of clothing, or just don’t have the time, then the choice on-line is endless. In fact the choice of sexy underwear, lingerie, sexy nightwear and sexy costumes is so vast; the question becomes what is your budget and can you stick to it or will you just blow the budget completely and treat your partner more than you intend?

Sex Toys

The sex toy market has exploded in recent years. So much so that the traditional vibrators which were initially just a vibrating piece of latex in the shape of a penis are a little boring when you look at what else is on offer.

If you think the choice of lingerie and sexy underwear is vast, then prepare to have your mind blown when you look at the range of sex toys.

The early days of the sex toy market was focused on the women who needed a little something extra when not in a relationship or while the partner was working away.

Nowadays the sex toy market is not just for women on their own, but men can get sex toys that they can use if not in a relationship, and is a more stimulating solution than masturbation alone.

The more liberal we are becoming in our sexual attitude and endeavours see’s the choice of adult sex toys that can and are used by both female and males.

If you are using or going to use a sex toy for the first time, whether male or female then I would advise the use of some oil or lube to start with. Not only does the oil or lube enhance the feeling, but it also make for more fun when rubbing into your partner.

So how would you feel if you received a sex toy for valentines or would you prefer to receive sexy underwear instead? Whichever your choice the ideal gift is available online at online adult stores where the choice is vast and the delivery is discreet and convenient.

How to Spice Up Your Sex Life and Save Your Relationship

The Question:

My partner and I have been together for 2 years now and we have been living together for about 4 months. Now that we are living together I feel that our relationship has changed. We hardly ever have sex, probably once a month is about all we manage to achieve.

I love sex and I’m sure that my partner does too, but for some reason we just can’t seem to make an effort to do the wild thing – one of us or both are always tired and sometimes it feels like we’re losing sexual compatibility; now it seems like I’ve had more passion in the past with other men or in the beginning of our relationship.

We do love each other and we’ve been through a lot together but I feel that our relationship is changing and I don’t know what to do about it.

We are becoming more like best friends everyday and I’m scared that the passion is fading. His idea of seduction and mine are totally different – he thinks ‘Let’s have sex?’ is an acceptable phrase into seducing a woman into hot sex, where as I would rather be pinned up against a wall without a word being said and so on…

When we weren’t living together our relationship was great; we did struggle a bit in the sex department but 3 times a week compared to once a month was a vast improvement.

Any advice you have considering this situation would be greatly appreciated. I don’t think I want to lose my relationship but I don’t know if I have the will power to save it – I don’t know what to do.

The Answer:

You might be surprised to learn that almost all long term relationships go through this ‘phase’ where everyone seems to get a little lazy. From my experience, it seems to happen somewhere between 18 months and 3 years into the relationship.

Here are some ideas that will help you make the best decision for you.

Does he know how you feel?

Open and honest communication is the most important component of any relationship.

Talk about it! Yes, with him, not with your girlfriends, not with anyone else. It’s absolutely amazing how many lovers simply don’t communicate openly and honestly with one another.

So many guys chat about their love live with their buddies, often as a way of bragging and showing off. And then they ask their guy friends if this or that sex idea would be ok. This is a bad idea for guys and girls. If you’re trying to figure out what sexual experiences to try out, talk with your lover not your buddies.

So, does he know that you crave hot spontaneous sex, or that you get excited by playing a little rough? Guess what, he might like that too! Or he might not, but you’ll never know if you don’t explore this topic together. And by the way, you’ll have a lot of fun and get a lot closer in the process.

Don’t hurt anyone’s feelings and check your ego at the door

It’s a strange thing, but sex partners often get their feelings hurt when one of them suggests trying something new, or doing something a little differently.

Get over it! The point of sex and intimacy is to enjoy each other and be happy together! Unless of course you’re focused solely on making babies – but that’s not the topic of this article…

Getting comfortable and killing your relationship

Complacency, also known as “getting comfortable” is the death knell of so many relationships, it may as well be a full blown epidemic. So many couples strive to “get comfortable”. What that means is they stop trying. And guess what… you stop trying, and your relationship dies. It’s that simple. The excitement and attraction dies, and your relationships becomes a project that you’re always fixing up. That’s no fun.

So how can you add that spice and excitement back into your relationship so that you’re not just lusting after those hot bodies at the gym?

Seduction as a game for lovers – the chase begins anew

The thrill of seduction doesn’t end when you get into a relationship. Why give up such a wonderful thing, even if you could?

Admit it, we enjoy the chase. I know I do and I’m at peace with it. And if you’re not chasing your lover, you’ll end up chasing someone else. We’re just wired that way. So let’s just accept that fact and use it to our advantage.

When was the last time you tried to seduce your partner? No, I’m not talking about coming home and saying “hey, let’s go have sex”. Blah! Boring!

I mean dressing up to look your best, wearing something sexy and feeling sexy.

Some of the best and most exciting sex is spontaneous sex, when you’re so wrapped up in the heat of the moment that you just can’t stop from ripping each other’s clothes off! Now that’s excitement. And doesn’t it sound more fun than “hey, let’s go have sex”?

Schedule hot sex dates

You go through the trouble of scheduling lunch and dinner appointments with just about everyone in your life. How about paying at least that much attention to your lover? Make time for that really steamy hot date, and plan accordingly. That way you’ll both be anticipating it all day, or all week.

Make a sex date box

Here’s a neat idea. Get together with your lover and each of you jot down a steamy date idea on a piece of paper and agree that each time you go on a hot steamy date, you’ll pick a card from your special sex date box.

Watch some erotic movies – together

Basic Instinct, Wild Orchid, 9 and 1/2 Weeks – it doesn’t have to be Playboy Porn, just something that gets you excited – trust me – he’ll get excited simply by you being excited.

Go out and buy some hot lingerie – together

What could be more exciting than shopping for hot lingerie together? By the time you’re done, you’ll be well in the mood for a hot sex date.

How about going to an adult toy store – together?

Maybe go visit an adult toy store together. Even if you don’t buy anything, you’re sure to have a lot of fun checking out all the merchandise.

Mix it up with some new sexual adventures

Doing the same old thing over and over again is bound to get boring. You wouldn’t watch the same TV show for the rest of your life, would you?

Try something different. Whether you’re up for a threesome or interested in the wild latex world of BDSM, the same idea applies.

Be open to new experiences. Venture out and keep it exciting.

In summary

Talk with your partner about sex. Really, make a date to sit down and go over it. Then resolve to always talk about it form then on.
Check your ego at the door. If your partner makes sex suggestions and you get defensive, then you’re missing the point completely. Get over it and put your partner first. You’ll be glad you did.
Don’t strive to get “comfortable” in a relationship. If you’re there, break out of it before you doom your relationship for good.
Bring the excitement of seduction and the chase back into your relationship – fast.
Actually schedule some hot sex dates with your partner. Really.
Keep it exciting with some new sexual adventures. Try new things. Open your mind and explore the entire world of sex possibilities.